Heroin Addicts: Methadone & Heroin Facts

Question: I need help, i just found out my boyfriend is a heroin addict. what do i do?

(Posted by: Hayley M on 2010-01-15 12:14:21)

Well, I've fallen in love with this guy who's amazing and perfect in all ways that meets the eyes. He makes me feel amazing and I've never loved anyone the way I love him. I knew he had a past, I knew he'd done drugs in the past. I thought that he was over that. Well, last Wednesday I got a call from his mom telling me he had been picked up. A parole violation. He was put on parole after released from prison. Okay, the things I've said so far are bad, but he is a good person. I believe underneath everything. I didn't know he wasn't allowed to be in Ohio, the whole time he was supposed to be in Michigan. Also, his mom had found heroin in his coat pocket after the police took him. He'd started using again for the past couple of weeks before he got picked up. So many things he'd been lying about. He was stealing from his family, and he may have even stole from me. He lied to me about a lot of things that I just can't believe. I don't know what to do, right now I feel so alone because I made plans with him. I feel so alone because there is absolutely no one I can go to that will understand this. I can't tell my mom, she only knows half of the story. I have been thinking about going to church or something, I'm so desperate to feel some sort of 'okay.' I don't want to leave him because I feel like his problem will only get worse, but people have told me that once a heroin addict always a heroin addict. I just don't want to believe that's true. I need hope. And fyi, I am nineteen and he is twenty two.

Posted by: rejectedzipper on 2010-01-15, 12:24:49

Some H addicts do break free. But from what you say this guy has no interest in moving on and getting his life together. It's tough to say, but you should walk away. Don't be surprised to get lots of "take me back " messages and promises of "this time I really mean it " - you are young enough to start anew with somebody who is upfront about everything from the start. Believe it or not, there ARE men out there that aren't complete losers.

Posted by: D O Double G on 2010-01-15, 12:19:28

The best thing you can do for yourself is get away from him. Sometimes unless people want to fix themselves they can't be helped. He is lying to you already because you had to find out the hard way, now your going to keep finding out his demons. The next thing you know your going to find out you have AIDS or some serious STD from this dude to.

Posted by: Ms Kitty on 2010-01-15, 12:21:34

Do not make his problems your problems........ Yes, it is true, once an addict ALWAYS an addict. Get as far away as possible.... he will ruin your life.

Posted by: sea-storm inquisitor cavalier on 2010-01-15, 12:32:05

Try to find him some help or research ways to help him.