Heroin Addicts: Methadone & Heroin Facts

Question: I'm in love with a heroin addict and i don't want to?

(Posted by: Anna S on 2009-07-28 12:39:43)

Hey i reeally reallly love this boy, we're both 16, and he's a heroin user, i really dunno if hes addicted but its only a matter of time i guess. anyway i've known him since i was like 14 when he had never even tried a cigarette, and he's lovely and i'm not going to break up with him just because of his problem. i haven't ever tried heroin and don't intend to, but he sometimes offers me it. although i intend to refuse, i'm finding it really hard, just need some tips on how to deal with refusing him all the time?

Posted by: Jo-Ann M on 2009-07-28, 15:23:34

My sister died aged 31.... and she had a heroin addict for a boyfriend. Swore blind she'd never touch it, and then after a while swore blind she wasn't addicted blah blah. Listen to Very Rude Man. The world of drugs is horrible and seedy. Get out before you become entangled in it. Please. I wish I had a photo of of my beloved sis to show you while she was on her death bed.(If I did I'd show it to all teenagers) That would make you think twice about being within a square mile of heroin. Please please listen to all the good advice you've gotten on here. Change your direction. Leave him and his filthy drugs behind until he cleans (or if he cleans) himself up. PLEASE. He's trying to get you to take heroin. Can you not see how much of a horrible thing that is to do to your girlfriend? He wants you to get addicted so then you'll be just like him... a smack head. It's your decision. I'm 30 years old my dear and I speak from experience and having worked within the drugs field. I beg you again... get out of it because the first time you say yes to that heroin (and don't be fooled.... you will eventually) that's it.. he's happy. I wish you all the best and I truly hope you're wise enough to make the right decision. Also I hope you're not angry at my reply to your question, but I'm sure you can understand how much I despise heroin. xx

Posted by: Elizabeth on 2009-07-28, 12:44:11

I just say no and stick to what you Truly want.

Posted by: Very Rude Man on 2009-07-28, 12:46:20

If you stay with him you will use heroin. Fact.

Posted by: Jenny on 2009-07-28, 12:46:55

If he felt the same about you he would't keep asking!

Posted by: Electra S on 2009-07-28, 12:47:27

You must help him stop or leave him period

Posted by: kartik k on 2009-07-28, 12:48:02

Please don't destroy yourself. If he is already on the road to destruction, it can't be helped. Stay away from him and tell him that his addiction is bothering you. Then he might try and keep away from heroin

Posted by: superstar tradesman on 2009-07-28, 12:49:33

He has to want to stop using it, try to spend as much tome as you can and keep him away from friends who take it too

Posted by: BARRY B on 2009-07-28, 12:49:38

You won't want to read this but... he is on borrowed time. The drug will kill him sooner or later. If you can understand this then you should be looking elsewhere. He offers you degradation and misery leading to death when he offers you the drug. Think about it.

Posted by: Andrew M on 2009-07-28, 12:49:45

Gonna drag you down Babe...Move on, till he finds himself

Posted by: Peter T on 2009-07-28, 12:50:19

FFS..... Are you for real?? He OFFERS you heroin and you think thats an act of love?? Whatever you may think of him, the best thing you can do is walk away NOW!!!! How long will it be before you get involved in his crappy ways either because you become a user or because he uses you in some way? If he feels anything at all for you he will stop using NOW......... Chances are he will lie and lie cos thats what they do. Wake up girl!

Posted by: kenlove32 on 2009-07-28, 12:50:44

Why dont you try it so you can be an addict also. Dont forget if you dont have money to fund your addiction you will end up a prostitute with aids after sharing needles etc. Be in control of your life & destiny. Where do you see yourself after 12 months. Losers deserve to be with losers.

Posted by: samantha d on 2009-07-28, 13:02:11

If you really love him refer him to some professional help. The pull of heroin is stronger than the need for food- no one can really compete with that. Him offering it to you just shows how far in he is. He will keep offering- misery loves company- not because he is bad but because many addicts will argue- 'it's more fun when you are not alone'. Get him help now before he becomes an adult and the consequences get more serious.

Posted by: The Meh Factor on 2009-07-28, 13:23:07

Pay attention to these people. If you stick with this guy and his habit doesn't end, it will cause a lot of misery for you. My best friend of 5 years had a girlfriend who had a heroin problem, he thought he could help her out or simply ignore it but in the end it just ruined him. She became possessive and ended up supplying his habit He tried to help her because he loved her but in the end he also became a victim. He ended up dropping out of college and kicked out of his house. I don't know what happened to him or her but i know it didn't end well. Last i heard they were basically homeless. Help but when it just seems hopeless, leave the guy. He will eventually ruin you. I guarantee it.

Posted by: Alex on 2009-07-28, 13:51:11

For him there are 2 ways : he goes to rehab and stops it either he ends up with a screwed life. For you there are 3 ways : you take heroin and become like him (an addict), you say bye to him or you help him go to rehab. I say rehab or Bye !

Posted by: Lisa on 2009-07-28, 14:23:32

This is a really hard one to call hun. People assume that every heroin is a bad person and yes some are but not all. This is why its a hard 1 to call without knowing your bf. I unfortunately became homeless at 16 and met alot of different people including some heroin users (2 of which i dated and 4 of which i ended up living with) Most of them were really nice people and 1 or 2 werent. However where the story is different with you is he has offered you heroin and not just once. My friends wouldnt have dreamed of doing that and on the occasion one did lets just say the others made him regret it. I think if hes offering it to you he really doesnt care about you or your future and also he isnt even thinking about getting off heroin because if he thought it was bad enough to stop himself he wouldnt offer it to you. No one can tell you what to do but my advice is he isnt worth the risk, what if you got stupidly drunk one night and he offered it and you were that drunk you said yes? you can get addicted after one hit, please think about this carefully

Posted by: phillip b on 2009-07-29, 00:09:13

Oh and he wants you to suffer and possibly die because of his addiction and be sure that is where so many end up -in the gutter no no no is thy answer

Posted by: S on 2009-07-29, 09:27:04

Go to NA meetings with him.