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Question: What options do i have, heroin addict brother and alcoholic parents.?

(Posted by: deannaaa, on 2010-07-09 23:48:44)

Okay so I'm sorry if this is long, but please read it! For starters Im 16 and I live in Wisconsin. I have OCD and depression, Feb. 2008 I was admitted into a mental hospital for suicide thoughts and cutting (my own personal choice to go to the hospital) and I didn't cut since until recently. Okay, so ever since Ive been about 6 my brother started using drugs, when I was 8 we had a meth lab in our house, (unknowingly, since we were out on vacation but left my brother...no idea why.) Ever since then he's still done drugs. In July of last year he almost overdosed and was rushed to the hospital and then went into rehab for three months. But on December 19th my just turned 22 year old brother passed away in a car accident causing my brother to get out of rehab 3 days early. He didn't even go to my brothers funeral or anything. Then on Christmas morning he overdosed again on heroin, having to go to the hospital. And then the past few weeks Ive been walking into his room to see him ODing on heroin, (passed out on the floor..ect. ect.) Ever since my brother died I just cant seem to function, I used to be a smart girl getting great grades and now I actually failed classes. I have no ambition for anything like that anymore. I started cutting again to deal with all the pain. My parents drink every night until they're drunk and I cant take it anymore. I havent been coming home lately and staying with my boyfriend's aunts and uncles (they're really sweet people and they're strict so no worries) and tonight my parents made me come home and to whatever my dad said I just replied with "okay " and he said if I said okay one more time that he'd come into the bathroom and kick my a**. I told him that it was child abuse to do that and he said he didn't give a sh*t. My mom called me a psycho b*tch too. I see a therapist regularly and a few years ago a social worker had to come to my house because my brothers hit me, but of course my parents stood up for them. My parents are emotionally abusing me and I just cant take it. I have no relatives that I can live with, but my boyfriend's aunt and uncle said I could stay with them for as long as I needed to. I feel as if I stay here that I will kill myself, because I cant stand to see my brother shoot up and its just so draining. My dad works for the state if that helps. So what are my options? Can I call my social worker on Monday and see that I get out of here? My boyfriend's aunt said she'd sign for my rights. I NEED TO LEAVE! I know this was long, but thank you sooo much for helping me! God bless you all. (P.S. My parents said if I leave the house that they'd call the cops and put me in juvie..I dont want that! But I can't stay here either. My boyfriend's uncle is picking me up tomorrow morning at 9, but I dont want the cops taking me away!)

Posted by: madamgul on 2010-07-10, 06:02:29

Let me just say, I have gone through what you're going through and I believe everything you said. I never told the police or my teachers because I was afraid of what my mother would do to me. She almost killed me with a kitchen knife, so yes, I was in danger. If I could go back in time, I would have left that house and stayed with relatives or friends. I had offers but I didn't take them up on it because I was afraid I would be a nuisance. You must leave. I am 27 and I still regret that I stayed in my mother's house and let her continue to do things to me. Don't worry about the details like taking your stuff, who'll feed the cat, or the test you have on Friday. Things are replaceable, you are not. You have to go, there is no choice.

Posted by: Jada on 2010-07-10, 00:00:31

Call the police about your brother because what hes doing is illegal, and call your local child protective services number about your parents.

Posted by: Daniel K on 2010-07-10, 00:09:39

Be calm, and clear with the family when it comes to talking generally. Care for your brother if you ever had a relationship. Forget the haroin and just be friends and cute and friendly. It would mean a lot to him. As for your parents i'm sure they love you at heart so just be friendly when you get home and nice. like they're not drunk and you're theyre kid/ daughter. You know theyre hurt over your brothers passing too.... I wouldnt be so passive about everything if they weren't all problemed, so don't take it the wrong way. As for moving out, i think its a good idea. Just do it on good terms dont just pack your stuff and leave. I mean it would be like your parents and brother losing someone else..... Unless theyres a lot more of that dad and mom yelling where that came from but if you ever remember good times with them, driving you when you were extremely young being cute with you etc. So be nice like i mentioned for a week or so before you leave. It is a good idea too. You have alot of future, the money you make your entire life, the respect, the lifestyle, the help you can offer people. don't get your future wasted. study at your new home.

Posted by: boystownhotline on 2010-07-10, 09:19:26

It’s great that you’re reaching out for help today. However, it’s unfortunate that you are dealing with so many different scary emotions right now. First of all, no one deserves to live in an environment where they are being emotionally abused or fear their own safety. It is important that you reach out to your local authorities. If you have had contact with your previous social worker – then yes, contact this person. However, if you feel like your safety is in danger – do not wait, call Child Protective Services (CPS) immediately. While your parents can not just “send you to juvie�, as a minor you can’t not stay with your boyfriend’s family with out permission. During the day it is a good idea to go somewhere where you feel safe, but follow your parents’ rules and come home on time. If you are staying over all night or leaving without permission, you parents can call you into the police as a runway. Most likely the police will just return you to your parents’ home. Would your boyfriend’s aunt or uncle be willing to call CPS with you? This may help to have them describe what they have witnessed or heard. The process of being assigned a new legal guardian is not as easy as just “signing over your rights� – but by contacting CPS you will at least get the ball rolling into the right direction of having a safer living environment. If you need help or want someone to contact CPS with you, call us here at the Boys Town National Hotline. We are here 24/ 7 and can talk you through the process of reporting what is going on in your home. Stay strong and be safe, Jessie – Counselor 1-800-448-3000