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Question: My sister is a heroin addict, what do i do?

(Posted by: gems1985 on 2009-07-29 01:56:07)

My sister is 18, since she was 11 she has been a nightmare, kicked out of school at 12, in trouble with the police for selling drugs and attacking police officers at 13 sent to a special school for bad kids, in foster care as she lied and said my mum was horrible to her. When she was 17 she got on heroin. She Then came off it about 4 months later with help of pills. She then said she had changed and was stupid blah blah blah. Anyway i now find out from my mum she is back on it. I cant help but hating her so much, i have no sympathy and dont feel sorry for her in anyway. She used all the excuses such as i wanted to try it last time but for me, they dont work again. My poor mother is going out of her mind, she isnt sleeping and to make matters worse she is due to go on holiday for the first time in 5 years next week. She is thinking about cancelling now. I absolutely despise my sister for what she is doing. Im bored of her "No one loves me " and "you dont understand " stories How do i cope with this and help my mum cope? I live abroad which doesn't help. To me she is just a selfish, attention seeking nobody. It may sound harsh to a lot of you but unless you have been in the same situation then please don't bother judging!! I just need some advice please. She is too selfish and self absorbed to admit she has an addiction. To her its "oh we dont understand " or " oh we dont know what she is going through ". My mum isnt strong enough to just cut her off until she realises she is hurting everyone around her. All her boyfriends are junkies who sell heroin for a living. She is a lost cause as far as im concerned. Rehab isnt for her as she is too lazy to go and the doctors wont send her. As far as im concerned she is dead already. I know it sounds terrible and i hate saying it but the way i see it is that if she wasn't my sister i would feel the same, so why feel different because she is family? She has done nothing but cause my family grief since about the age of 12, and i wouldnt accept that from a stranger so why accept it from an attention seeking, immature child? Also to me its not an addiction, especially not twice, its a way of life. And thats the life she chooses to live. I just wish my mum would feel the same way.

Posted by: Bella on 2009-07-29, 02:01:50

I know its hard but just try to love even though she is stupid still try and let her know what she is doing is very very stupid and is hurting your family...but yeah besides that i really dont know what to tell you....sorry and good luck

Posted by: Amie on 2009-07-29, 02:10:01

Herion is the worst thing in the entire world. its destroys lives of those who use it, the family and effects everybody in general who has to deal with addicts. i think she needs to be sent away or something, perhaps even jail. its sounds harsh but you cant really get people off herion by being nice and comforting. heroin addicts can get this chip implanted in them, i think its called naltrexone or something and it pretty much cancels out all the drug effects. with it, they dont feel anything, but i think it actually makes them feel worse after taking the heroin if they have the implant. she has been on it for a year, which it not too bad, there is still time for her to get help. even though shes been trouble since she was yonger too, there is still chance for her to get better and do something beneficial with her life. you cant let her get away with it, you or your mom, she needs help. she needs to stop the heroin ASAP or she will end up worse, it is a shocking drug. she needs to be locked away in her room or something, or taken to one of those places where there are old men who look horrid after years of use. whatever she does, she needs to stop taking heroin, no matter how bad the withdrawals feel she needs to get it out of her and stop doing it.

Posted by: KinuMae on 2009-07-29, 02:16:49

Well there's really nothing you can do if your sister doesn't want help. Try getting some counseling? That's all I can think of. But when my mother was off doing drugs I just cast her out of my life until she fixed it. I'm still not 100% sure that she stopped and I can't fully trust her anymore.

Posted by: crazy4electronics on 2009-07-29, 02:17:50

Hi. My suggestion to you is to go to an Alanon meeting and/ or if there are Naranon meetings where you live those would be even better! Naranon meetings are for family & friends who have an addict in their life..your sister has a disease called addiction..and the best thing you can do is to take the focus off of her and put it on you..and how you are feeling because of her addiction.. Trust me if you can get to a Naranon meeting or an Alanon meeting (for people who have family member or friend who is an alcoholic) these meetings will help you to learn how to cope with her addiction a lot and educate you on her disease too! It's okay to feel the way you do because you have been affected by her addiction..so its NORMAL to feel the way you do..if you can get your mom to attend those meetings with you that would be the best thing for the both of you and/ or make an appt to talk to a drug rehab counselor in a treatment center. Just educate yourselves as much as possible and try to go to one of those meetings it will give your mom some really good coping skills..They might even have Naranon meetings online too right here at yahoo if they don't have Naranon in your community..if not I highly suggest getting to an Alanon meeting..but yeah educate yourself as much as possible..

Posted by: laen G on 2009-07-29, 02:52:42

Pray for her because shes not going to quit until she is ready. I hope she is strong enough, this is a powerful drug and very addictive,drug dealers love it every time she comes around,all I can say is watch who she hangs with and prevent that person from selling her the drug, do not be fooled any body can sell it.