Drug Addiction: Methadone & Heroin Facts

Question: Help! my sister has a serious drug addiction.?

(Posted by: liz. on 2010-01-04 12:19:09)

My sister is 23 and ever since she was about 18 has been doing serious dangerous drugs. She is addicted to heroin and xanax and probably more than i even know about. My mom found needles in her room and gave her an ultimatum of going to rehab, or getting out. Of course my sister gave my mom this sob story and my mom feels bad and is giving her ANOTHER "one more chance. " I could not count how many chances she has been given. I don't even talk to my sister for the simple fact that she is a complete different person. It seems my mom has a problem to, because she seems fine just sitting back and letting her daughter slowly kill herself. What do i do? I feel like i'm the only one with common sense.

Posted by: Messianic Jew on 2010-01-04, 13:04:10

Your sister has chosen this avenue of escape as a solution to her problems. It is my belief that a person will not change until the pain of remaining the same is greater than the pain of change. In other words until it hurts more to stay on drugs than it does to get off of them she probably won't stop. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. Your are actually dealing with two problems, as your mom keeps enabling your sisters behavior. Until your mom stops there is little hope that your sister will. Truthfully, your only option at this point is prayer for God's intervention. I have heard of organizations that promote forced intervention, however as soon as the outside intervention subsides the person is free to return to their old habits, and you are out big bucks! Sorry, I know it's not what you wanted to hear.

Posted by: Tom on 2010-01-04, 12:26:06

If you are seriously concerned, then you should try sitting down and talking to her yourself... When your mother talks to you, you're used to it and pay little attention, but if a sibling does it, then normally it has a bigger impact.. Try to explain to her that she is not only hurting herself with the drug use, but she is also hurting the people who care about her.. I hope this helps, and she kicks the addiction... ...Tom...

Posted by: tkseven_84 on 2010-01-04, 12:35:44

I don't know but your mother needs to see that she needs to toughen-up. When you sister does end up killing herself or hurting someone in the family while she's high your mother is going to end up feeling guilty about it.

Posted by: Tricia on 2010-01-04, 12:37:40

You certainly have your hands full. as you've stated your sister need help. your mom, by trying to be understanding , is enabling her to continue. your sis cannot break the habit herself, she's already demonstrated that several times over. you need to speak with her. .. just remember it has to begin with HER and she is WEAK. i'd question where the $ comes from to support this habit. if there's a dr. involved giving her a prescription .for the xanax, he needs to be seen in person and told what's going on. best both you & mom do that together...it will be rough on her as well. this will be a long and tedious experience for your whole family. .. with your sis needing a lot of support to quit.

Posted by: britt on 2010-01-04, 12:39:28

Wow! your mom is dumb! sorry to say but thats a very dumb decision..she needs rehab pronto. get one of your moms Friends to talk to your mom and maybe her Friend can persuade her to not give her other daughter a second Chance.

Posted by: Melissa on 2010-01-04, 12:41:30

Honestly, there really isn't anything you can do to stop her addiction. You can be there for her, you can try to talk to her, but a drug addict is a drug addict. They lie and manipulate. They won't be the same until they are off the drugs. My best friend turned into a heroin addict and I was there for her the whole way through, and she ended up going to rehab and being clean. Well, she started heroine again and it affected my life so much I made the decision to not be friends with her anymore. I'm not sure if you can force them into a rehab or not. Your mom needs to stop feeling bad for her. It is feeding the addiction. She HAS to kick her out. The only way your sister will wake up is when she hits rock bottom and has NOTHING.